I have three kids, but my wife has four (insert reaction to lame joke here). I love my kids with all my heart, but let’s face it…they’re still kids. Not only are they still kids, but two of them are teenagers (please pray). My teen boys are into violent video games, Duck Dynasty and sports. My little girl is into drawing, dolls and pestering her brothers. All three of them have been raised in church. The boys have a calling on their life, while the little girl will step up and pray for anything that is bothering you (usually as a result of her hitting you first). My boys seem to love the Lord, while my little girl seems to be following her brothers’ footsteps.
My wife and I encourage the boys to make wise decisions, especially now as teenagers. Being a teenager nowadays is NOWHERE like it was when I was a teen (some 25 years ago). My kids are sinners. My boys make mistakes, have bad grades and struggle just like everyone else. My little girl probably leads the league in most times off of green (at her school, you stay on “green” when you are good, but get off of it and even go to “black” when you are bad…we are very aware of this rule).
We are pretty tough on our kids. My wife, more so than I am. Growing up, I did just enough to skate by in school. Although they didn’t like it, a “D” was still considered passing, which was all they could ask for from me. My wife, on the other hand, better have good grades or she was in some serious trouble. So, my kids are now somewhere in the middle. We want them to get good grades, but we’re not asking for straight A’s…just get it as high as you can. Although we are hard on them, my kids also know their dad is a complete moron. Used to, I would try my hardest to embarrass them…now they like it (where’s the fun in that?).
However, having said all that, my kids seem to live in a fish bowl….or under a microscope, and that is not fair to them. Why do they have to pay the price for their dad being a youth pastor? My kids don’t get a chance to be “regular church kids”, because of what I do. My kids are church and church events more than a lot of people. My kids often have to help me and my wife set up events, and every drama our youth does, you can bet my kids are going to be in it…because I can depend on them.
Just because my kids are YPK’s (Youth Pastor Kids) doesn’t mean they’re perfect. They make mistakes (just like your kid), they come up for prayer at the alter (just like your kids), they don’t listen to Christian music 24/7 (just like your kids), and they struggle with life (just like you).
Kids are kids…so let them be kids.
“Let anyone of you who is without sin, be the first to throw a stone” ~ John 8:7