Pass Protection Gets High Praise From Publishing Company

12 08 2014

PP Book Cover


Just got my first, professional review on my book “Pass Protection”.  I am literally in tears and humbled and speechless.  The review will posted on their website, blogs and social media on August 25, and will be listed as their book for the week September 1st.  Checkout the review here (pdf).

The Forgotten Youth Pastor

6 08 2014

aloneI have a unique job.  I love my job, but I will be honest, it’s the hardest job I have ever had.  I can’t even call it a “job”…because my past work experience positions were just jobs…I went in, punched a clock, went home and never thought about the place again until the next day.  What I do now, it’s a polar opposite.  I eat, drink and sleep my career now.  I’m always thinking of how to improve things, changes that need to be made, ways to reach people, etc.  I am proud to say that I am a Youth Pastor.

However, I am the forgotten youth pastor.

Now, before I get into WHY I am the forgotten youth pastor, I need to issue a disclaimer.  In no way, shape or form do I want to come across as someone who is jealous, bitter or looking for a handout.  That’s not the case.  This blog is simply my perception of something, and if I can make someone take a look at this from a different angel, then my mission will be a success.

A pastor’s life is complex.  I recently saw something from Victor Marx (who is the founder of All Things Possible Ministries) that gave some insight as to what pastors go through.  Check this out:  97% of pastors have been betrayed, falsely accused or hurt by their trusted friends; 70% of pastors battle depression; 7,000 churches close every year; 1,500 pastors quit each month; 10% will retire as a pastor; 80% of pastors feel discouraged; 94% of pastor’s families feel the pressure of the ministry; 78% of pastors say they don’t have close friends; 90% of pastors say they work 55-75 hours per week.

That’s a lot to swallow.  Pastors do a lot, not just in and for the church, but also in and around the communities they live in.  Being a pastor is not a glorious position, but it is a rewarding one.  Which brings me back to the title of this post…why I am the forgotten Youth Pastor.

It’s not just me…it’s almost every youth pastor in this country.  Youth Pastors are often overlooked in the church.  Church members often think that youth pastors “don’t do anything but play games with kids” or “isn’t a real job”.  Now, I can’t speak for every youth pastor, but I can speak for myself, and by talking to other youth pastor friends, I know I am not alone in what I am about to say. (again, I am not complaining, I just want people to realize the struggles youth pastors also go through)

I have to maintain a budget for my youth group.  OK, my wife does that.  But still, I am responsible for the money in my youth group’s accounts.  I get the phone calls during my family dinner time, that tells me one of my youth has been in a wreck and that I need to come to the hospital.  I get the texts and Facebook messages when a youth is down, hurt or upset, and feels as though they have nobody to talk to but me.  I organize summer camp trips, retreats, Wednesday night services, lock-ins.  I stay up late talking to a youth who has just lost someone very close to them.  I am the one who stays up late and by my phone during prom nights, making sure nobody needs a ride home after a night of partying.  I am the one sending out numerous texts to the one kid who was hooked up in church, but now has strayed away.  I am the one who does anything he can to get involved in the local school, whether it is as the football chaplain or whatever.

I have never had a love offering taken up for me, or have had someone buy my lunch, or give me a card that says “you’re doing a great job” or send my wife and I on a weekend getaway…quite honestly, I don’t need that stuff.  But what hurts the most as the forgotten youth pastor, is the fact that people think we don’t do anything; that all Wednesday night church is, is a time for us to be loud and have fun.  Honestly, probably half the people in a church, either A) don’t know who the youth pastor is, or B) has no idea what goes on during a Wednesday night service.

Just like my pastor is to us, I am a shepard to my flock.  I pray for my flock everyday.  I love my flock, as if they were my own kids.  I would go to the ends of the earth to bring one of my sheep back.  I love what I do, and quite honestly, can’t see me doing anything else, but as a youth pastor, I and my family have to sacrifice a lot of things.  Just because I am a youth pastor, doesn’t mean I struggle with things, such as being discouraged or having the devil tell me I am failing or that I am a failure.  I know what it is like to feel alone in a room full of people.  I know what it is like to wonder if the message I just delivered, even made sense or if a youth got anything out of it.

Youth Pastors (as well as Children’s Pastors) need your love, support and prayers, just as much a senior pastor does.  So before you think that Wednesday night youth services (or whenever the youth services are) is just a bunch of teens trying to have fun and play games, with maybe a little God sprinkled in somewhere before they go home, remember this article.

Youth Pastors (and Children’s Pastors) are pastors too, and don’t want to be forgotten.  So please, pray for them, as you would your senior pastor.

Parents: Do Yourself A Favor And Monitor Your Kids’ Social Media

24 07 2014

Social media buttonsSocial Media.  Those two words can speak volumes.  We live in a “social media” world now.  Everything we see, do, hear, has something to do with social media.  From Facebook to Instagram, socializing with people from all over the world, has never been easier than it is today.

Or as dangerous.

Teens today can be social butterfly’s without even talking to someone in person.  They are a blessed generation, because they literally, have the world at their fingertips.  I love social media.  I am constantly on Facebook and Twitter.  As a Youth Pastor, I use those tools to keep in touch with my youth, post upcoming events info, sermon links, etc.

Having said all that, I have a request:  Parents, do yourself a favor and monitor your kids’ social media accounts.

I know of several kids who have both Facebook and Twitter accounts, but mainly use Twitter because their parents are on Facebook and don’t use Twitter.  I see it all the time; a teen will post something nice on Facebook, knowing their parents could see it, and then drop a tweet full of f-bombs and incriminating photos on Twitter…and don’t even get me going about Snapchat!

Parents.Kids_You, as a parent, have every right to monitor what goes on with your kid.  My wife and I are constantly checking up on our kids’ social media accounts, including their text messages from their phones.  Think they will just delete all their messages so we don’t see it?  Think again!  My wife constantly and randomly will grab my kids’ phones to do text checks…and if ANYTHING has been deleted (cause we all know kids text 24/7, so there should be messages-a-plenty in their phones) then the phone goes bye-bye.

I constantly browse my kids’ Twitter and Facebook accounts.  They’re also REQUIRED to give us passwords to all their accounts, when we ask for them.  Now, we have great kids, so we don’t (shouldn’t) have anything to worry about, but in this day and age, you can never be too cautious.

I hear parents all the time though, say they don’t want to invade their kids’ privacy.  Honestly, that’s a bunch of bull.  Too many parents want to be best friends with their kids and not be parents.  As long as my kids live in my house AND we have to pay the bills for the internet and phone, then we will check and invade their privacy as much as it takes.

So parents, do yourself a favor and monitor your kids’ social media accounts (and phone messages).  They have the world at their fingertips, but so does everyone else out there.  So keep your kids safe, and be a parent…not a buddy.

Kenny Bowyer is a Youth Pastor at the Cutting Edge in Chouteau, Oklahoma, and is also the author of the teen devotional “A Moment With God: A Teen Devotional” and the football devotional, “Pass Protection”.

My Newest Book “Pass Protection” Is Available Now

10 07 2014

PP Book CoverI am pleased to announce (and this was a TOTAL God thing), that my second book “Pass Protection”  is now available.  Originally, my second book was to be a sequel to “A Moment With God: A Teen Devotional”, called “MORE Moments With God: ANOTHER Teen Devotional”.  That book is still set to be released in the early Fall of this year.

“Pass Protection” is simply a 11-week devotional book, geared towards the football season.  The book, perfect for parents, teachers, coaches, athletes and/or chaplains, merges scriptures and actual football stories.

“Pass Protection” is available now for the Amazon Kindle for only $0.99, and will also be available in ibooks, nook and google play very soon.  You can also purchase the “spiral playbook” version for only $5.00.


“Moment With God” Now On Google Play

2 07 2014

I’m excited to announce that my book, A Moment With God: A Teen Devotional is NOW available on Google Play. That means that this book is now available on ALL the major platforms (ibooks, nook, kindle and now google play)

New Book Coming Fall of 2014

9 06 2014

More Book Cover Preview I am excited to announce that my new book, “MORE moments with God: ANOTHER teen devotional” will be released in the fall of 2014 (if not sooner)!  I am so happy about this book…this devotional features 80 devos (many which have never been posted before on my blog).

More info about the book will be coming soon, so please stay tuned.  For now, I am asking my friends and fellow church folk, to SPREAD THE WORD about the first book, so I can get ready for a major media blitz.

Memorial Day Sale

23 05 2014

Memorial Day Sale Promo 2


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